A Bow to Experience

Today is the day after Fathers Day in the U.S.  Fathers Day is particularly poignant for those of us who have lost our dads.  This weekend, many precious memories played like movies in my mind. I also spent some time ruminating on how my father's guidance made me the person and professional that I am.

You can pursue something similar by seeking mentoring relationships in your workplace.  An official program is not required. Is there an experienced person in your organization you particularly admire, whose successful career you would like to emulate?  If so, you can approach that person and explore the possibility of establishing a mentor/protege relationship.  Why not?

Preparation is important before asking for help from a mentor.  Think about what you want from a relationship - and be realistic. (Don't expect to earn a promotion by cozying up to a senior executive.  That's not what mentoring is about.)  Instead, define two or three overarching goals for your professional development.  Think about what sort of information and experience your mentor can share with you that would help you move toward accomplishing your goals.  Focusing in on what you want from the relationship will make the experience mutually rewarding.

Part of the value of a mentor's input is for you to get a perspective that is more objective than yours and your immediate supervisors.  Open your mind.  Examine what is offered from all sides.  Ask questions.  Share your concerns and ideas.  Try new things.  Tell how the help provided has affected your performance.  In short, make the most of the value of the mentoring relationship.  Think about what you can/are giving in return.

Are you hesitant because you think there's nothing in it for the mentor?  That's not true.  Many people in the later stages of their careers find great fulfillment in helping others achieve their goals.  It's part of preparing the next wave of leaders to take the reigns.  Those that have "been there - done that" like knowing that sharing their experience can educate and help others be more effective and successful.

Approach a prospective mentor.  Bow to their experience. Learn and be enriched. Someday you can pay it forward.